“Look carefully at the closest associations in your life, for that is the direction you are heading.” – Kevin Eikenberry.
John Maxwell’s quote from last week`s ATM hits deep: “Almost all our sorrows can be traced to relationships with the wrong people and our joys to relationships with the right people.” It’s a truth we often overlook, especially when the saboteurs wear friendly faces.
Author and entrepreneur, Jim Rohn said, “Your circle don`t only shape your beliefs, it shapes your habits, your risk tolerance and even your perception of opportunities.” Your company doesn’t just accompany you. They either propel you forward or take you backward.
The Hidden Cost of Toxic Associations
Not all toxicity is loud. Some of the most limiting relationships are subtle:
They discourage your dreams with “realistic” advice.
They normalize unhealthy habits.
They celebrate your stagnation but grow distant when you evolve.
They drain your energy with drama, guilt, or passive aggression.
American author John Mark Green said, “Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” These people may not intend harm—but their presence quietly erodes your potential. That’s why an Association Audit is essential.
Ask Yourself:
Who energizes me vs. who exhausts me? Who challenges me to grow vs. who keeps me comfortable? Who celebrates my wins vs. who competes or deflects?
Here’s a simple framework on how to conduct an Association Audit:
Question 1: Do they celebrate your growth?
A Toxic Association: Feel threatened or dismissive.
A Positive Association: Cheer you on, offer help.
Question 2: Do they challenge your bad habits?
A Toxic Association: Enable or ignore them.
A Positive Association: Call them out with care.
Question 3: Do you feel energized after time together?
A Toxic Association: Drained, anxious, or small.
A Positive Association: Inspired, focused, uplifted.
Question 4: Do they respect your boundaries?
A Toxic Association: Push, guilt, or manipulation.
A Positive Association: Honor and support them.
Author and speaker, Steve Maraboli, said, “Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are part of your history, but not part of your destiny.”
Growth isn’t just about what you do, it’s about who you’re with. The right people don’t just walk beside you; they help you climb. And the wrong ones? They’ll keep you circling the same mountain. The right association doesn’t just love you—they elevate you!
